Why is it that when you go to a popular TTC website, to get support and help, you get flamed, charbroiled, burned at the stake? It seems that some of these women are a bunch of backstabbers. Don't get me wrong, I do believe (sometimes) that these anonymous posts being downright mean and rude are by teenage pranksters. But not all of them.
It's very hurtful when you post a question asking for advice on a certain issue, and people post back anonymously. These anon posters just toss the match and burn you to death by even posting some ridiculous things and accusations. IT HAS TO STOP!!!!! Why post as an anon if you don't want people to know who you are? Why post AT ALL? Aren't these ladies your friends? I would never do anything like that. I am from the "If you can't say anything nice, then don't say anything at all" school.
For example, I don't agree with the CIO method (cry it out). And there are TONS of posts on a certain website asking for help on CIO and other sleep training techniques. I don't agree with it, but I'm certainly not going to say anything about it. Just because I don't like it myself doesn't mean I won't support those who want to try it or those who are already trying it. More power to them, I say!
I'm a mother, and a first time mother at that. I have a right to ask opinions and for help from others who are more experience than I am. I have a right to ask opinions and for help from those who are going through the same things I am being a first time mother. So why is it that I'm suddenly some no good idiot who does nothing but watch TV all day and ignores her baby? Why is it that I'm suddenly a horrible mother because I let my baby sleep in bed with us at night sometimes? Why is it that I'm suddenly a bad mother because I buy her everything she needs and a little more? Why is it that I'm suddenly a horrible and stupid person, after asking other moms for their opinions, because I started a blog with just random thoughts?
Does any of the above make me a horrible mother? I didn't think so, but now I'm not so sure. I guess ignoring my baby while she's napping during the day makes some no good idiotic mother, but then she's NAPPING. Am I supposed to just sit there the entire time watching her? And, no, I DON'T watch TV all day. I'm too busy entertaining my daughter during her waking hours and TRYING to do chores - not easy with a shadow around. I guess I'm a horrible mother because I actually want to sleep during the night, and not have to go up and down the stairs all night to give my daughter her Paci and cover her with a blanket. I guess I'm a bad mother because I replace all the clothes she outgrows, and buy her toys and books that she'll probably end up destroying at some point in her little life. And I guess I'm just a horrible and stupid person/mother for asking for help from others, and for asking for their opinions.
Hmm...On second thought, I now think I'm a GREAT mother. My baby doesn't complain, and my husband tells me all the time. I believe it now. That's a great feeling.
*hugs to all the moms and non-moms*
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Ahhh, the trolls. I think they exist in any forum where anonymous comments are allowed. Slashdot has them, but they have a point ranking system for the posts. So, trolls get ranked as trolls, and with the filtering system you never have to see them.
When I first met up with trolls on Slashdot, the popular trolling topics were Natalie Portman and pouring hot grits down one's pants.
Trolls? *lol* That's a GREAT description for them!
She's happy. She smiles all the time. She's a good baby. Why feel bad? So you let her sleep in peace? Big deal. Like all moms, I've watched you check in on her. So you replace old, too small things? Duh! That's what everyone does; for themselves and their children.
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